Monday, July 18, 2011

A Grown Up Orphan

A friend of mine lost her mother to cancer last week. Her father died in April of the same horrible disease. I'm just wondering how a woman gets through such a thing! I mean really how devastating to wake up one morning and realize you are now parentless. But for it to happen in such a short span of time. While she was still mourning one parent the other one passes. Seems like too much grief for just one person.

I was a grown woman the day I realized I was an orphan. It's strange to have parents who love and care about you all your life then one day they're both gone. Left me empty. Feeling alone, though I wasn't. My friend must be feeling alone now even though she's surrounded by family and friends. No other person can fill that void, that space that your mom filled.

Over time I decided to go for some counseling. It helped me over the hump. I prayed a lot for God to help me get up out of the pit I was in. He did. The loneliness finally went away and now I like to be alone. To think, to write, to remember.

I am confident she will find her way back to herself but the journey is long, hard, deep and painful. Although no one can fill that void, that space, God can heal and help her to move on with life. He helped me. He will help you.

6 comments:

TheFathersCreations said...

One thing that really helped me and still does, is when I really getting to missing my mother, I simply ask Jesus to give her a hug from me....and I KNOW that He does! :)

juliemooreonlife said...

Such a sweet way to express your love for your mom. I can see how that would help.

Terry said...

I was glad I had time between the two. The loss of my mother is still fresh on my heart and mind. I have God's peace continually, and I know he has a hold of me.

juliemooreonlife said...

Me too. The time I had alone with my mom helped me heal from the loss of my dad. How hard it would have been to have lost both so close together.

marcialoyd said...

Lucky for me this is not something I have had to face yet and I so dread when that day comes. I will say a prayer for your friend.

juliemooreonlife said...

Thank you so much Marcia for your prayers.